It seems that much of my life up until this point has involved resistance to change. Yet change is inevitable. We often cannot leave a shop without it.
Silliness has crept into this post already, for of course I am not really talking about coins, but about the impermanence of all that we encounter on a daily basis; manifest in the moaning becry of those mourning their youth, or in an a regretful comment on the speed at which the years appear to be passing – and I have to admit to both, even at my relatively spritely age – it seems to be a problem. But we really can’t stop it. So we might as well get with it.
There seems to be a choice: to embrace or to resist the flow of life. Surely, things can’t be that simple, can they? The choice echoes a similar one described by the great Bill Hicks:
“..it’s just a ride. And we can change it any time we want. It’s only a choice. No effort, no work, no job, no savings of money. Just a simple choice, right now, between fear and love.”
That quote is from his 1993 show, Revelations. It is part of a longer piece that he used to close his act. If you haven’t seen it, I couldn’t recommend a better way to spend 3 and a half minutes. The first time I saw that show it brought me to tears, and I can pinpoint the moment when I first heard ‘Just a Ride’ as the moment when I realised what I wanted to do with the lion’s share of my time on this planet.
It wasn’t until a couple of years later that I drew up the courage to seriously pursue this course. It is just recently that I have understood what he meant.
For to me, the choices are the same. To embrace change is to make new connections, to expand the sphere of what we will consider as being linked to us. To me it means greater velocity of motion, leading to greater interdependence and to greater unity. Conversely, to resist change is to stagnate. It is to fester, to close off our sphere of dependence and to atrophy in connection with the the rest of the universe. These appear to me as different definitions for the duality of love and fear. What else is fear but the feeling of being alone, of separation and isolation from that which makes us whole?
Fittingly, the more I seem to embrace change in my own life, the closer I seem to get to happiness and to acceptance of the state of affairs I find myself in. My dreams suddenly appear in front of me with an open path, and it feels as though the ride on which I am a passenger could be heading exactly where I most want it to go.
I would love to hear about your take on change.